I need a CHEAT DAY! I have tried every diet: all meat, no meat, eating twice a day, eating 6-7 times a day, no food just juice, no juice just water. Seriously.
What I’ve learned from new diets and lifestyle trends
I have done it all and at this point I treat my body as a science experiment when I approach a new diet or “life style” trend. My newest venture is Whole30® and I am entering week two of the four-week commitment. I love these type of challenges; I always learn a few things about myself and this diet is no exception.
I have limited discipline, and I don’t care. I’m 36 and have two little boys, two different jobs, and a husband in the Fire Service. If I feel like I need a piece of dark chocolate in the first week of my newest diet endeavor, I’m going to eat it. Shoot, I drank two Deep Eddy Lemon Vodka drinks with my best friend for her birthday on Day 2! I’m not missing a celebration of a dear friend. Of course I could have just had soda water and lemon but I didn’t WANT to do that. I’m a big girl. I can make these decisions and still be healthy and stick to the diet the rest of the time. This leads me to my next discovery.
GuiltI AM ALLOWING GUILT to keep me from feeling successful. I find myself doing it in many facets of my life…Mom Guilt, Wife Guilt, Work Guilt, Diet Guilt, Workout Guilt, I could go on. If I don’t workout enough, feed my kids a cupcake with Red-40, double book my calendar, or eat peanut butter and honey when it’s forbidden on my newest diet, I hold myself hostage.
Mom guilt, work guilt, diet guilt, wife guilt. I hold myself hostage when I feel the guilt.Click to tweet
I create this self-inflicted wound and continue to remind myself of the “long-term” damage I have done. Am I alone here? We have enough negativity in this world now. We don’t need to be our own worst enemy. I am giving the big middle finger to self-inflicted guilt and I invite you to join me. Let’s stop beating ourselves up and start celebrating the good stuff we do every day.
I am giving the big middle finger to self-inflicted #guilt & I invite you to join me.Click to tweet
Support and Encouragement
WE HAVE TO LIFT EACH OTHER up with love and support not just in diet and fitness, but in life. I have found a small group of people who I need. They sit on the Board of Directors of my life and hear the deep, hard, powerful things that are real – my problems and dreams. These people have the same ethics and beliefs and ultimately care about who I become as a human. I need them and if you have just one person in life to lift you up, you are probably doing better a lot better than most.
Judith Shulevitz reports in this study that one in three Americans over 45 claims chronic loneliness. That is not okay and we have to make a change towards face to face, real relationships where we show vulnerability. Don’t have any good, close friends? Make some! Find a church and volunteer, join a club, find a small fitness studio like barre3 or a CrossFit gym and make new friends who are like-minded.The Facebook representation of yourself and your friends is just that, a representation. I didn’t post a video of me screaming at my kids this morning and neither did you. Let’s get back to walks with friends, coffee talks, wine, and juice (if you are on Whole30®). Let’s be transparent and connect. And then when we have a cheat day on our diet, because you and I probably will, we will have someone there to say, “It’s really okay! Did you enjoy it? Don’t worry, tomorrow is a new day!”